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Time is fleeting, especially for single parents - and their kids. Single moms and dads work both ends against
the middle with time and money in a valiant effort to give their children more than they can truly provide alone. In fact, if you break it down, this effort causes a certain amount of self-neglect. Many single parents go without self-care:

Self Care

1. Physically: Healthy Nutrition/Vitamins, Exercise, and Rest

2. Spiritually: Quality Time with God, Family, and Friends

3. Mentally: Education and Empowerment

For those of us who are single moms and dads, or who are passionate about helping single parent families, it is so important to remember and OVERCOME this.

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day present a perfect opportunity for single families to enjoy the gift of time together. If you are an employer of a single parent, or a neighbor, or family member, or even a minister, you can give the gift quality
time with family, or time for rest – or better yet BOTH!

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day also present a perfect opportunity for Empowerment. Both parents and children often need help in “gifting” in a single family. It can be awkward to help your own child recognize you when you are parenting alone.


Kids need to be empowered with ways to express their love and gratitude to their parents. Parents themselves often feel undeserving, or as if they are broken. I really think it is important to acknowledge that being a single family is ok. It may not be what was planned – but it does not mean that single families are broken. There are many paths to single parenthood and it is time to acknowledge that Single Families are not necessarily “broken”. Recognizing single parents by collecting and providing cards and/or restaurant gift cards, movie passes, or other ways for the families to get together is a great way to engage the community to support families who can be very low and feeling incomplete – or worse yet, inadequate.

In order to empower single families during this time, Single Parent Advocate hosts a Mother’s Day Banquet and provides empowering speakers to help remind single moms of how precious and full of promise and potential they are. We also provide crafts for the kids to make and carnations to give. It is always a special time for all of us.

For Father’s Day, in the past Single Parent Advocate has hosted BBQ/picnics and provided sponsor donated raffle prizes that include tickets to local sports events, movies, and other activities that fathers can enjoy with their kids. We have also hosted self-defense workshops and honored fathers at a benefit concert with certificates of recognition and
thanks. Dads are tough to get out and be a part of these things – but it is so important. If you are single dad, please plug into a local single family group

If you are a single mom or a single dad and you are reading this,  please give yourself an honest break alongside your children, and your single family friends – enjoy the gift of time this year. Quality time to rest, play, pray and recharge inside and out as individuals and as a family or community. Remember you are irreplaceable and invaluable in the lives of your family.

 

self care promise for single parents

Often single parents ask me about “being mother and father”. I really don’t follow that mentality. I always looked at God as my spouse in our household during my time as a single mom. That is His promise and His place in a single family. So, even though my son’s father was absent, there was rarely (if ever) a spirit of grief or resentment there - because God made a way. He always filled our hearts and hopes, and He always made a way.

Ok, so here are some words of wisdom from others who inspire me – I hope you will write these on your heart, post them on your fridge, and teach them to your children. Guard your comings and goings with thanksgiving, hope, patience, grace, and above all else – love.

Happy Mother’s and Father’s Days Everyone!

 

 

 

Psalm 68:4–6 Sing to God, sing in praise of his name, extol him wh rides on the clouds; rejoice before him—his name is the Lord. A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling. God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing…

 

“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don't wait for something outside
of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it's at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savored.” - Earl Nightingale

 

Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. -Thomas A. Edison

 

A Time for Everything

3 There is a time for everything,

and a season for every activity under the heavens:

2 a time to be born and a time to die,

a time to plant and a time to uproot,

3 a time to kill and a time to heal,

a time to tear down and a time to build,

4 a time to weep and a time to laugh,

a time to mourn and a time to dance,

5 a time to scatter stones and a time
to gather them,

a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,

6 a time to search and a time to give
up,

a time to keep and a time to throw away,

7 a time to tear and a time to mend,

a time to be silent and a time to speak,

8 a time to love and a time to hate,

a time for war and a time for peace.

9 What do workers gain from their toil?

10 I have seen the burden God has laid on the human race.

11 He has made everything beautiful in its time. He has also set eternity in the human
heart; yet[a] no one can fathom what God has done from beginning to end.

12 I know that there is nothing better for people than to be happy and to do good while
they live.

13 That each of them may eat and drink, and find satisfaction in all their toil—this is the gift of God.

14 I know that everything God does will endure forever; nothing can be added to it
and nothing taken from it.

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Advice for Single Parents as we get BACK TO SCHOOL!!!

 

School Supplies (check) - Support System (loading...)

 When you think of self-sufficient you would say it means being able to do it all on your own, without help from anyone. Take a second to look at your daily routine. Is that really realistic? Even the most successful people rely on others for support, from parents who are willing to babysit, to friends who are willing to teach you how to change the oil in your car. You're doing it all on your own, it can be challenging to figure out how to build a support system for yourself and your kids.

As you prepare for the school year, take a look at a few starting points to help build your circle. Think of the people who come to mind who will be able to help or point you in the direction of another resource, even if they aren't able to help themselves. 

Packing backpacks Single Parents helping Single Parents

Who Do You Trust?  

If you had to leave your kids with someone right now, who would you call? The answer provides a pretty good indication of who you trust. Most likely, this list will be family members who live nearby, as well as your closest friends and neighbors. With school starting soon this would be the person you would call to help with pick up if you are running late from work.

Who Do You Respect or Hold in High Regard?

There might be people in your life who you don't know very well, but who you have a lot of respect for. These individuals might be excellent sources of help. This person maybe able to help you make decisions that you otherwise wouldn't be able to make based on your level of stress.

 

Who in the Community Might Be Able to Help?

Is there a church or support group nearby?  How about other single parents in your children's class or neighborhood? These people will be willing to support you just make sure to be clear and willing to help them in any way as well. 

Guess what?

You've begun to build a support system. Start contacting these individuals as soon as possible to share your need and even if they can't help you themselves at this time, they may be able to point you in the direction of others who can. Stay connected with Single Parent Advocate. Check out our closed Group created as a message board for Single Parent to communicate and give advice.

 

Single Parent Advocate is actively gathering school supplies for registered single parent families in the DFW area.   Would you support these families?   There are 3 ways to help:

1.  Click Here and join donors by making an online financial donation today

2.  Click Here to Volunteer at our backpack stuffing or distribution gatherings in August

3.  Purchase and deliver suggested supplies at one fo the locations below

2015 Back to School Supply Drive for Single Parent Advocate2015 school supply list

Together we can make a big difference!  Thank you for your support!!

 

 

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